2 Times Anger Is Acceptable in Marriage and 3 Times It’s Not

I don’t think anger needs a dictionary definition. But if you need one, anger is defined as “a strong feeling of irritation, displeasure, or hostility.” The Bible often talks about anger. And it talks about anger.

Anger is a decisive mood. Anger is an intense emotional state. Robert Jones defines it as “a whole-person active reaction of negative moral judgment against evil.”[1] Anger is a biological response to a perceived threat or wrongdoing. It is our body’s way of preparing us to defend ourselves.

In this case, it’s like the lights on your car’s dashboard. Those lights respond to something going on under the hood. Anger is a response to perceived injustice. When we feel a “negative moral judgment against perceived evil,” our anger lights up. That’s why we can say things like, “You made me angry.” It seems so. But the truth is that we are angry at ourselves – it is our body’s reaction to perceived illness. You did this and I responded with this emotion.

when Ephesians 4:26 Discussing anger, not saying, “It’s good for you to be angry.” Instead, it acknowledges that we have anger. When this intense emotion enters our body, we are told not to allow it to lead us to sin. When we say don’t let the sun go down in anger, God is telling us to look under the hood. Don’t keep those dashboard lights flashing and beeping. Deal with it.

Sometimes our anger is the right response. But many times, our dashboard lights are set to wrong standards. They burp when they shouldn’t. We tend to put ourselves at the center, and perceived evil is not real evil; On the contrary, it is a small thing for ourselves. On many occasions, it is fitting that God said to Jonah: “Is it good for you to be angry?”

You’re angry, but should you be? That is certainly the case when it comes to marriage. More likely to get angry. But should there be? Should we be angry?

There is such a thing as righteous anger. God may be angry. In fact, there are times when anything but anger is sinful. We have a few things want And want Be angry about. But I would argue that these are few and far between. Most of the time, our anger is not justified. Truly righteous anger centers on the heart of God. Here are three times that anger in marriage is an accurate response.

[1] Robert Jones, Eliminating Anger, p15

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